We can experience flow, when singing, dancing, playing guitar, football or other sports.

The magical thing about flow is that it can take our worries away and while in it we can lose self-consciousness.

When we are in flow we lose the track of time.

When in flow we focus on the present, not the past and not the future.

It makes us forget that we are tired. We can do the thing we love for hours and get great satisfaction while doing it.

Flow is something, we can all experience and most of us do from time to time.

It is a state experienced through professional but also leisure activities.

What is important, is that it is linked to the experience of positive emotions and commitment to long-term and meaningful goals.

However, for flow to be experienced, our skills need to match the challenge we face.

For example dance students will experience flow when the dance routines shown by their teacher match the level of skill they possess.

When the  skills are higher than the challenge, they will experience boredom.

When the challenge is higher than the skills possessed they will experience anxiety.

Thus, the more activities you add in your life that allow you to experience flow,

the higher the life satisfaction and positive emotions you will experience.

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If someone told you that you can control your feelings to a great extent, would you try it?
Would you be persistent enough to make a change?


I am among those people, who believe that each and every single one of us can change!

But every change requires action and every success requires effort.

I believe that:

  • If you really want, you can change your live and turn your misery into happiness.
  • You can overcome your fears and fulfill your dreams.
  • You can fight unhealthy anxiety and begin to live a calmer life.
  • And most importantly, you can learn to love your fellow human beings in a healthy way when you first learn to love yourself and fall in love with life.

Life is short and we should not wake up every day feeling sad. We should not wake up unhappy when we are amongst the luckiest people on earth (we are not hungry, we have a roof above our head, we do not live in a war zone, etc.).

We should not be afraid to dare and to make our dreams reality.

We should not spend most of our time feeling stressed.

Finally, we should stop choosing friendships and/or entering relationships that have nothing to do with how love should feel

It is unacceptable, but how many of us experience the above emotions daily?

How many in reality are not happy at all, but they reply I am okay to the question, “How are you?”.

How many of us would have liked to have a magic button that would allow us to stop the feeling of unbearable pain, intense regret, excessive anxiety and explosive anger?

So, is there a way to control our feelings?

The answer is yes and not only one.

Our feelings can be regulated in many different ways.

But what we have to understand is that some of these ways can be very beneficial for us, but some others can harm us and cause us permanent damage.
Examples of techniques that can harm us are:

1) The technique of avoidance, often used by many people.

With this technique, we choose not to experience a situation at all (e.g. I’m afraid of airplanes, so I will not fly, I’m afraid of the dentist, so I will not visit him, interviews stress me and I might fail, so I will not show up).

This technique, although it can temporarily relieve us, will negatively affect us in the long run.

Imagine a life without the opportunity to visit magical, exotic destinations, or a life without the opportunity to visit friends or relatives that live abroad.
Think of a life without doing your dream job or a life where we avoid to take the necessary steps in order to take care of your health.

Thus, in many cases, the avoidance technique should not be chosen, not only because it can put ourselves at risk, but because in this way we can miss important opportunities in our lives.

2) Negative response techniques can also harm us, such as: drugs, uncontrollable food intake and alcohol. Unfortunately, many young people choose negative response techniques because they offer a quick relief from the problematic situation they are experiencing.

These techniques, however, do not solve the problem.

These techniques cannot save you.

They can only numb you for a while, make you forget for a while.

You will forget your problem yes, but you will destroy your mental, physical and psychological health.

Would you like to learn how to regulate your feelings with healthy techniques?

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Certainly, in some cases, feeling anxious can help us become productive and under certain circumstances it can help us to perform better. For example, feeling a bit of anxiety for an assignment can energize us, help us gather the information we need and then push us to work on the assignment.

Also, by feeling a little anxious we may demonstrate our genuine interest for the job we do. For example, being anxious about something that went wrong at work can be perceived as interest for the job our employer offered to us.

Some people, however, experience excessive anxiety and they experience it too often.

This not only makes them feel bad, but also makes them perform far worse than they could actually perform.

Surely, some of you might have forgotten something that you have memorized because of anxiety. Some others might have realized that when you have to present something in front of an audience, you do not perform as well as you can because you are feeling anxious.

There are, therefore, two forms of anxiety: state anxiety and trait anxiety.

State anxiety is the form of anxiety we experience because of a situation, for a limited time, and it subsides when the “threat” disappears. In other words, it is temporary.

On the other hand, trait anxiety has to do with our character and has an impact on the way we see the world.

Some people are high in trait anxiety, while others who are more relaxed/calm are low in trait  anxiety. People with high trait anxiety assess various situations as more threatening than they are in reality.

At the same time, they tend to pay attention to anything “threatening” in the environment and ignore more positive or neutral information.

Thus, these individuals experience anxiety more often and more easily.

The frequent experience of negative emotions (such as anxiety) can result in various anxiety disorders.

Then these disorders (very frequent or constant anxiety) can lead to various health problems. Moreover, people experiencing anxiety disorders can get to the point of avoiding anything they think will cause them anxiety.

If you are experiencing anxiety it is important to learn to control it / deal with it.

This is the only way to live a tranquil life and reduce the risk of developing an anxiety disorder.

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Fear is a feeling that often paralyses us, dominates us, and makes us feel helpless.

We often let fear overwhelm us and we end up living a sheltered life. Because of this, we might be living the same situations again and again without reacting and we  might tolerate people who are really bad for us. The worst, though, is that our dreams stay unfulfilled.

We avoid taking risks and we try to avoid making mistakes in any way, because we live in a society that is constantly looking for someone to blame instead of helping people see that they can learn and improve through their mistakes.

So what are you afraid of?

Loneliness?

Making a decision?

To do something you  have never done before or to talk about something that bothers you?

No matter what you are afraid of, know that every time you avoid doing the thing that scares you, your fear grows. You may feel better temporarily because you are not experiencing this intolerable emotion, but as long as you are not dealing with the situation, the fear dominates you. By letting our fears win, we do not really live, we just exist, we exist trying to avoid anything that might hypothetically hurt us.

Fear makes us defensive and instead of seeing opportunities and the chance to live new experiences, we only see dangers and we act in every way possible to protect ourselves.

So, can we get rid of our fears?

The truth is that we may never be able to live a life without fear at all, but it is important not to let our fears to stop us from living, evolving and welcoming change.

The difference between those who really live and those that just exist is that the first do not let their fear control them, they are afraid …. but they dare to live. 

So if you live a life full of fear, it would be good to start seeing your life and fears in a different way. Only then you will be able to truly live and enjoy the gifts that your existence has to offer.

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Can one be constantly happy if his/her happiness depends on external factors?

We humans are usually waiting for something to happen that will make us happy.

We say: “I will be fine when the exam is over, I will be happy when the rain stops, I will be happy when I change my job, I will feel perfect when I travel, I will be great when I meet this girl or I will feel wonderful when I marry the man I want. “

But by doing everything that we thought would bring us joy, can we conquer happiness?

Could it be that happiness is not about feeling joy after a positive comment or after a success?

Is it possible to conquer happiness by working on ourselves?

You might have heard the phrase ” When you are smiling, the whole world smiles with you ” and indeed this is the case.
By changing our inner world, everything else slowly falls into place.

When we know how to create our own happiness, we do not expect anyone or something to cure us, save us or entertain us.

If something happens in our lives that is joyful, it will be of course welcomed and it will make our joy more intense, but our mood will not depend on it.

Also, when our happiness does not depend on external factors then we don’t create dependent relationships.

When we feel well, decisions are not fear-based and we trust our inner voice more.

In other words, we stop entering situations in order to be saved or to temporarily forget our current bad state. Instead, we make choices that will and can intensify our already good psychological state and help us evolve.

When we are happy and relaxed, we see opportunities and we become more creative.

Let me help you see how!

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It’s easy to say that you love someone.

But what do you really mean when you say it?

Some think that falling in love is love;

some think that needing someone is love,

or that wanting to make someone yours is love. 

But it is important to understand,

or at least try to understand what love is.

Why?

Because if we do not understand

and if we do not really love ourselves first,

we won’t be able to receive real love,

and we won’t be able to really love others.

The love that we’ll be giving will be egoistic,

just like the love we will receive.

And why is Love important?

Because the lack of real love,

can lead to many psychological problems.

And how can they be cured?

With Unconditional Love.

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